Book Description | Addiction of all kinds, whether drug addiction or behavioral addiction such as gambling, eating - or addiction to anything else in fact - is rooted in pain caused in many cases by suffering in childhood. Many of these parents who have lost children to addiction are not expected to express appreciation or understanding for their children. Instead, they often feel hurt, angry, or feel that the blame is always on them. This book does not aim to blame anyone but rather to embrace suffering humanity, aiming to show that addiction is one of the most common manifestations of human suffering. There is no accusation, just an acknowledgment of the fact that suffering is inherited across generations, and that we unwittingly pass it on until we understand it and break the chain of transmission within every family, human group, or society. Blaming parents is neither emotionally good nor scientifically correct. All parents do their best, but our best is limited by our unresolved or unconscious trauma. This is what we inadvertently pass on to our children, as I did. The silver lining in this book is that this trauma and family disintegration can be addressed. Given the right conditions, we now know that the brain can heal itself. |